One of the most important aspects of practicing when-which-how is managing our expectations of outcomes. When we express the virtues into an encounter, do we send the virtues with an expectation of some pre-defined result? If we are expecting a particular response from the recipient of our energy transfers, we are not being neutral. Expectations of particular behaviors and attitudes from others as a result of our practice is the projection of our own desires onto them.
The heart virtues are not tools for imposing our personal worldview on others. The virtues are universal energies of love that we outflow to others without personal prejudice. The challenge for the practitioner is to work at neutralizing the ego’s desire to lay down the conditions for “success.”
